This month, I’m traveling throughout Central America, meeting up with some of my best girlfriends in Panama, Guatemala, Costa Rica and Mexico. Here’s a pic of me with my friends, Liz Long and Paula Orozco, at lunch in Antigua, Guatemala:
When I was working 9-5 for a cosmetics company, and again throughout my years as an entrepreneur, this is what I dreamed of…
› I wanted the freedom to travel the world and create a schedule that allowed me to do so — life goes by quickly and there’s a lot of world to see! 2 weeks vacation each year wasn’t going to cut it.
› I wanted to do work that felt meaningful and an answer I could be proud of when people asked “What do you do?”. I wanted to snuggle into my bed at night feeling like I really made a difference for someone that day, without feeling like I had fried my last brain cell to exhaustion.
› I wanted to feel financially s p a c i o u s. No stressing over signing up for a course I wanted to take, booking a nice hotel or taking a friend out to dinner. I wanted to be able to say Yes.
› I had an even bigger vision for my future — writing books, speaking, and making global impact through my message.
Several times throughout this journey, I’ve had to pause and assess whether I’m building in the right direction.
Were the steps I was taking (or considering taking) actually aligned with what I wanted?
I’ve talked with hundreds of women entrepreneurs and here’s what I often see:
They’re pointing in the wrong direction.
› They’re doing telesummits because they think they should, but not necessarily because it’s aligned with their brand, their vision and their desires.
› They’re hustling to write an e-book or create an online course, but meanwhile, their savings is dwindling and their stress is skyrocketing.
› They’ve built a solid client base, but it’s not giving them the lifestyle they crave, so they’re starting to lose the love for the work they once dreamed of doing.
Directional Challenges
#1 – UNSURE WHERE TO STEP
As I started my business and my dream started to taste more and more like a reality, I realized that this was going to take a lot more effort than I had thought. I wasn’t just going to print some cute business cards and brochures, update my website and send out a newsletter, magically filling my coaching practice and dropping $100K in my bank account within a few months. This was looking more like a marathon than a sprint, and I was already exhausted just lacing my sneakers up. But with so many things I could be doing, I had no idea what I should be doing…
Meet Sophia:
When I first spoke with Sophia, it was clear that she was a go-getter who was going to go far. She had big ambitions and a desire to serve, but was totally overwhelmed with information. “Should I do a teleclass? A webinar? What is my niche and do I need one right away? And most of all…are any of these steps actually aligning to give me the lifestyle and impact I desire?” These were some of the questions she was asking herself, and the overwhelm was getting intense. Her To Do lists were long, and she couldn’t wrap her head around where to start. What if she wasted a bunch of time on the wrong things? She couldn’t afford to make a bunch of missteps.
#2 – PAINTED INTO A CORNER
At a certain point, I had more clients than I could handle and was hitting my income goals, but something was…missing. I felt like I was growing beyond my message and I wanted my work to grow, too. Not to mention, my lifestyle was the pits. I was working 24/7 to build and maintain my business, and I knew that if I kept going at this speed, I was going to burn out completely. My excitement for my work was starting to wane and that scared the daylights out of me. I got into business to expand the freedom of myself and others, but I was feeling trapped…
Meet Tara:
When I met Tara, I felt her powerhouse energy. She had not only built up a solid clientele, but her business was growing fast. She had already raised her rates and the clients still kept rolling in. The problem was that to maintain her business, she was working like a maniac! Her sex life was starting to dry up, she was starting to feel ungrounded and make unhealthy food choices, and was getting tired of her own excuses (“I’ll work out tomorrow!”). Plus, she felt a desire to create different offerings and messaging that more fully aligned with all that she loves, but felt painted into a corner – clients are used to these offerings and rates. What if she made changes and her business fell apart?
The Antidotes
IF YOU’RE UNSURE WHERE TO STEP (like Sophia)
You need to learn the nuts and bolts and take consistent action. You can do what I did in the beginning — throw everything on the wall and see what sticks, which isn’t terrible, but eventually you need to learn how to choose aligned actions that will make things stick. It is critical that you start earning income in the beginning of your business, so you can get the experience of working with clients and the confidence to keep going. Don’t waste your precious time doing the hokey-pokey.
IF YOU’RE PAINTED INTO A CORNER (like Tara)
You need 1-on-1 coaching to restructure your messaging, scheduling, pricing and offerings to align with your desires. In fact, you may need some help blowing the dust off those desires and seeing a clear vision for your future, too! It’s one thing to know what you want and go for it; it’s another to have a feeling of ease in the process. That’s the intersection that I play in — ambition and ease. I promise you: there is a way to realign your lifestyle and business without things falling apart; it just takes some courage and loving care.
If you’re not making an investment in your business, don’t expect people to invest in you. The world needs your freedom – choose it.
WHAT YOU DESIRE IS POSSIBLE.
It’s just a matter of getting you pointed in the right direction.
In the comments below, share whether you feel aligned in your business! I’ll reply to your comments; I’m here to help you get your head wrapped around this in a way that works.
I always love your blogs!
I feel super aligned in my business, with plans to take it to that next level of the sweet spot! I realized I wanted to spend a lot more time in nature + outside, so this year I’m growing herbs and wildcrafting to create healing + earth friendly teas, body products + tinctures. I am obsessed with these products already, and with making healing creations, so it feels super duper aligned. Im so excited!!
I also just took a leap of faith and booked a solo month long trip to Hawaii – I leave in 2 weeks. My first trip paid for completely by my own business. Ahh I am so excited!
Im inspired to create more coaching packages that are more fun for me – not just an hour sessions. You’ve got my wheels turning.
Thank you Nisha! I feel part of the reason Im going to Hawaii is because of you and your work – showing me whats possible and then just saying DO IT!
Yayyy. 😀
xo Beth
Beth,
You are such a rockstar! Nice work, sister.
You have so much to be proud of. Taking a
month to travel is a huge move, and will
inevitably set you up for more vagabonding
if you desire. It’s easier to create than we think!
Congratulations, and thank you for sharing.
This is so inspiring.
Much Love,
Nisha
Oh my gosh, I am so completely challenged and unaligned with my business to the point like your one client, I am losing my love for doing this work. I want so badly to make this happen for my life and to be of service to others but I’m totally stuck!
Going to check out Marie Forleos videos, thanks!!
blessings,
Cricket
Cricket,
Don’t lose hope! It sounds like you
need some restructuring. Do you
feel like it’s the work itself or your
systems are out of whack?
B-School is incredible. Glad you’re
checking it out. Let me know if
you have Q’s. Happy to help!
Much Love,
Nisha
I graduated from IIN in 2011, but I was not ready to pursue a career in coaching yet. It took me until very recently to figure out what I was trying to accomplish and who I wanted to help. I just “relaunched” cjholistics.com last week and am now ready to take clients. I am very excited about this journey. I know it will take time management and not wasting precious time since I do also own another business as well as work full time (look forward to leave the JOB!!!!). I still have other obstacles I am over coming so it’s easy to doubt myself and how can I really help others with things I am going through? But hopefully it will just help me be more relate-able and in turn I will grow and learn faster myself by helping others. You have inspired me for a very long time. Thank you!!!!
Cassi,
Yay! I love meeting other IIN grads 🙂
Congrats on your relaunch, sister.
The pic of the candles is so soothing.
Check out Marie Forleo’s B-School
through the link in the post above.
The program could really help
shorten the learning curve and get
you free from the J-O-B ASAP!
Sending love and strength for your
journey. Make it fun!
Much Love,
Nisha
Wow..I have just been falling in love with your blog and I read this post: I was living IN Antigua, Guatemala this Februrary 2013! Then I went to the incredible Lake Atitlan, where I had planned on “focusing on my business”, but instead found myself on a much-needed journey to connect with myself..so much of what I was discovering ther, I am reading mirrored here in your blog…Amazing! xoxoxo!