A few weeks ago, I was speaking with a client who was struggling to show up fully in her work. She was wading through a lot in her personal life, and it was absorbing a lot of her energy. In tears, she said “I just don’t feel like a leader at all right now. How am I supposed to help anyone when I feel like I’m a mess?”
I understood. Through my years of coaching, I’ve had to face many personal challenges while growing my business and supporting my clients – divorce, heartbreak, health issues, family health issues, friends who needed me, existential crises… Basically, a human dealing with human stuff.
And sometimes, we just need a break – a few weeks off to rest and recalibrate. Other times, we need to keep putting one foot in front of the other. Either way, it’s important to decide from the frame that it’s okay to be a mess sometimes, and your mess doesn’t make you less of a leader.
The truth is, if you’re truly into self-growth, you’re likely always going to be doing the deep dive into your heart and psyche, unearthing and healing old patterns that no longer serve. And let’s be honest: We do it because we wouldn’t have it any other way. We enjoy tinkering with the wiring. And if you’re curious in this way, then darling, you’re never going to be fully baked. (Of course, the paradox here is that you’re perfect as you are.)
The world doesn’t need more “leaders” standing on their soapboxes and preaching (but not living) their teachings. The world needs more leaders who are aligned and embodied, willing to do the inner work and allowing their self-love to radiate as universal love through their outer work.
So embrace your mess.
It’s okay that it’s here.
You don’t need to be perfect.
And as you relax your resistance to the mess, you just may find the space and clarity to lead.
—> In the comments below, share a time that you’ve found the courage to lead from a place of not being perfect and having it all figured out, or a time that you were inspired by someone else who led from their mess.